The Mental Health Crisis Among Middle Aged Men
Middle age for the purposes of this blog is 45-65. The focus of this blog is on men in light of the fact that there is a growing body of research indicating that men are increasingly socially isolated . Men are raised to display strength and to conceal their emotions. Although these rigid stereotypes are starting to fade, with men being encouraged to be in touch with their feelings. Therapy can certainly help men gain insight into why they are feeling sad, trapped, anxious or depressed. All of these issues are highly treatable.
Men see women making significant strides in empowering themselves in terms of career advancements and educational achievements. Women are gaining widespread independence financially. They frequently earn more than their male partners. There is a long standing joke—what is more fragile than a faberge egg? The male ego.
By middle age a man’s career, family situation, relationships with friends and parents are generally well defined, for better or worse. Their youth has faded and their options for growth are quickly dwindling. Doubts about sexual prowess and physical attractiveness reduces self confidence.
A man begins to realize that to change course at this stage of life would be difficult, if not impossible. If a man in middle age looks at his past with regret and had little hope for a better future, an existential crisis is inevitable. Mortality is now more and more of a reality and the opportunities for change are rapidly declining.The options available dwindle quickly.
I went through this type of existential crisis in middle age. It is frightening as well as very depressing. To make major life changes in one’s 40s and 50s is daunting. If changes are in order for happiness, then change needs to happen. However, to make those huge decisions is incredibly difficult. A man is entering the abyss of the unknown. It is a huge risk and quite terrifying, especially if they have families who depend on them for financial and emotional support.
In struggling with these existential issues therapy can provide a sounding board and a safe place to express emotions which are intense, but not clearly understood. To talk about regrets. disappointments, failures and feelings of frustration helps a client understand their personal history and why they are experiencing emotional distress currently. It is a cathartic experience which needs to take place for healing to happen.
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